Vayishlach, And He Sent

✦  All insights are drawn from articles by Chaim Solomon and Eitan Yardeni published by the Kabbalah Centre.

Most of us run from the people and situations that hurt us. Jacob does the opposite. Twenty years earlier, Esau wanted to kill him. They separated, and Jacob never had to see him again. But at the start of this portion, Jacob does something surprising: he sends messengers ahead to find Esau (Bereshit 32:4). He doesn't wait to be found, he goes looking. Chaim Solomon asks directly: why did Jacob seek Esau out? Why not just leave him alone? His answer: Jacob understood that reaching his full potential meant something bigger than personal safety. By chasing down the negativity and transforming darkness into Light through sharing and love, Jacob could reveal all the Light hidden in his own soul. Before the two brothers meet, Jacob sends generous gifts, herds of animals, wave after wave of them (Bereshit 32:14–21). This isn't bribery, it's a kabbalistic tool: sending "gifts" of Light into a place of darkness, preparing it, and ourselves, before facing it directly.

When the brothers finally meet, Esau runs to Jacob, embraces him, falls on his neck, and kisses him (Bereshit 33:4), a complete reversal of twenty years of fear. Jacob tells him: "For I have seen your face, as one sees the face of the Creator" (Bereshit 33:10). The brother he once fled has become, in that moment, a place where Jacob can recognize the Light.

The night before facing Esau, Jacob faces something even harder, alone. Left by himself, he wrestles with a mysterious figure until the break of day (Bereshit 32:25). At dawn, the figure asks to be released; Jacob refuses until he receives a blessing. The figure changes Jacob's name to Israel (Bereshit 32:29). Jacob then asks the figure's own name, and receives no answer at all. Eitan Yardeni, citing Rav Berg, teaches that this figure represents the Opponent, what kabbalists call the evil inclination, the source of chaos in our lives. When Jacob asks its name, he is really asking: what is your essence? How do you operate? The Opponent refuses to answer, because, as Yardeni writes, it depends on staying hidden: "I am always here. I don't want people to know my name, I am always hiding."

Here's a detail worth sitting with: rearrange the Hebrew letters of Jacob's new name, Yisrael (ישראל), and you get Li Rosh (לי ראש), "I am the head," or "I am in control." The new name isn't just a label, it's a description of what happens when we finally see the Opponent clearly instead of being unconsciously run by it. Rav Berg's teaching, as Yardeni relays it, is sobering: the Opponent never rests. "When we overcome one challenge, there will always be another challenge waiting." The goal isn't to defeat it once and be done, it's to keep recognizing it, layer after layer, for as long as we're alive.

Chaim Solomon points out something remarkable about how the story resolves: Esau arrived with four hundred men, more than enough for violence. Instead, he embraces Jacob and kisses him. The darkness Jacob feared for twenty years was met, prepared for, and transformed, not by chance, but by the Light Jacob deliberately sent ahead. This is the completion of the week's arc: face the darkness, don't run from it; wrestle it directly until the blessing comes; and the transformation holds, but we stay awake, because the Opponent never rests.

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